There is a lack of generic security adaptation protocols to deal with extremely dynamic security conditions and performances in the context of Self Organizing Networks (SONs). We have proposed a Security Adaptation Reference Monitor (SARM) for wireless and mobile environments that aims to offer a generic high level Framework capable of effectively integrating new, emerging domains -such as, bio-security and green IT- in order to deal efficiently with the security of complex systems. Tanks to Autonomic Computing integrated principles, SARM fine-tunes security means from counteraction schemes and cryptography strength based on monitoring of the context, including the user environment and energy consumption aspects. Hardware approach and extensive simulations using an agent-based approach have also been conducted in order to validate SARM in the presence of attackers. The results clearly show that SARM is efficient in terms of survivability, overall network utilization and power consumption -QoS and Security-(QoSS).